Missed Opportunity

A Christmas Carol Series ~ Stave One

“It is required of every man,” the Ghost returned, “that the spirit within him should walk abroad among his fellow-men, and travel far and wide; and if that spirit goes not forth in life, it is condemned to do so after death. It is doomed to wander through the world—oh, woe is me!—and witness what it cannot share, but might have shared on earth, and turned to happiness!”

page 16, Dover Thrift Editions

You see a kitten shivering on the curb in a downpour.  You see an a stooped-over, white haired woman holding a sack of groceries and struggling to lug her walker onto the bus.  You see a young girl in a stained, tattered dress looking longingly at a cheap doll on the store shelf as you hear her mother say “We just don’t have the money.”

It has been put in us by our Creator to want to help.

Marley shows us the abject frustration that arises from losing the ability to give care and compassion to fellow travelers in this world.  From his multiple utterances, “woe is me,” to his outburst of pure aggravation with Scrooge for not being accepting of the chance that Marley is supernaturally providing him, his despondency at his lost opportunity to help is stark.

Many changes happen inside of us when we begin to take on the image of Christ.  One key change is in how we look at helping people.  When you follow Christ, the opportunity to help others transforms from drudgery to opportunity.

Marley, who like Scrooge, never bothered to look up from his financial registers found himself in a position where now he could not look down.  All he could see was need, but he had no ability to meet the need.  And now his lack of ability fills him with remorse.  When we finally help someone, it feels good.  When we see someone going without, it feels empty.  While we live in this life, we have the option to avoid the feelings of remorse and fill ourselves with the satisfaction of having done good.  But what if we lose that opportunity?

Discussion Questions

What is the significance of Marley’s chains and the ledgers and cashboxes connected to it?
When Scrooge tells Marley he doesn’t believe he is really there, why does Marley cry out?
What motivates Marley to appear to Scrooge?
Explain what Marley means when he says “Woe is me.”


Are You Putting Yourself Out There?

A Christmas Carol Series ~ Stave One

Are you putting yourself out there?  Have you ever been asked that question?  It might relate to making friends—  Are you making yourself approachable so that others know you are not closed off?  Or it might relate to romantic involvement—  Are you sending the signals to that special someone so he or she might know you are interested?  A third possibility relates to your professional endeavors—  Are you taking on the projects and producing a work load that is going to get you noticed?  But for the follower of Christ, it has a different application.

In Scrooge, we see the anti-type of a follower of Christ.  He underpays his clerk and makes him work in deplorable conditions.  He spurns the unconditional offers of love and friendship from his nephew.  And he antagonizes the charitable gentlemen who want nothing but a small donation with which to do good.  Scrooge is certainly not putting himself out there.

For the follower of Christ, the corollary to the Great Commandment exemplifies putting oneself out there.  When Jesus said “…and a second which is like it: love your neighbor as yourself,” he gave us the supreme guidance for putting ourselves out there.  And it is not so we can receive the benefit.  It is so those around us can benefit. How does the follower of Christ put himself or herself out there?  They do it by finding an object of Christ-like love.

Discussion Questions

Who in Stave One was putting themselves out there?
How had Scrooge closed himself off?
How had Scrooge’s pursuit of success caused him to deal with the people around him?  (How had it made him deal with Bob Cratchit?  How had it made him deal with his nephew, Fred?  How did it make him respond to the two gentlemen seeking donations?  Others?)
Do you see any tendencies of Scrooge in yourself?
Who are you likely to cross paths with tomorrow that could use a simple demonstration of love?

Refocusing Christmas

Do you ever feel like Christmas needs to be refocused?

Christmas is a celebration of the one whose birth we celebrate.  Dickens wrote A Christmas Carol because he saw how far many had drifted from the principles that undergirded the day.

Join me in reading A Christmas Carol to sharpen the focus of Christmas.

Over four weeks starting the day after Thanksgiving, we will read together, think about and apply the lessons that Scrooge learned as he traveled with the spirits on that Christmas Eve178 years ago.  We will take lessons specifically regarding how a Christian should approach Christmas time and the reading of this classic.

Why Everyone Should Write

If you’re not writing, you don’t know what you’re missing.  Writing gives you a perspective you won’t get any other way.   Everyday thoughts and emotions swirl in your head and heart always barely eluding your grasp.  Then they fester and eventually surface at times and in ways you don’t want.  However, pouring your thoughts on paper (or screen as the case may be) tames them.

We store our memories and their attached emotions in the limbic area of the brain.  The limbic is not quite the subconscious because we are aware of it, but it is not as easily accessed as other parts of the brain.  The neo-cortex, or frontal lobe, is the power house for logic and ration.  When poor patterns of thinking trap us, it’s because we are dealing with our emotions and memories without getting logical perspective.  The physical act of writing (or typing) builds a bridge between the neo-cortex and the limbic system.  The result: you process your emotions logically instead of… well… emotionally.*

So even if you never publish a word, there is benefit in writing.  You will be more in touch with what you are feeling and why.  Being more connected with yourself makes you more settled and stable.  So, write!

(* The sources documenting how emotional memories of the limbic system function are many.  This is certainly not my original thought, but it is so well and widely documented that it can be considered common knowledge.)

This Always Takes Me Back

The winter storm whistles through the oak trees outside my second story bedroom window.  The acorns pop against the roof so thunderously I swear Marley’s ghost is ascending the stairs.  The draft from the windows drifts across the room.  I pull the covers closer around my shoulders, and I tap the right side of my Kindle advancing the page.  It’s my yearly custom— reading A Christmas Carol.  Dickens creates a world so immersive that I am transported there even now as I recall my experiences of reading it.

This book has captivated me for almost fifteen years now.  When I was on my first deployment to Iraq in 2008, I decided to read it on a whim.  Dickens drew me in.  The book hooked me, and since then, every year beginning on Thanksgiving weekend, I read it again.  Often I read it twice before Christmas.  It is a short but powerful read.  I savor every sentence letting it set me in mid-nineteenth century London and letting it fill me with feelings of regret, angst, hope and redemption.  It became a companion to me at a time when I was separated from family during the most family-centric time of year.  And since then, it has become a part of who I am and who I am still becoming.

I would love for you to join me this year.  Beginning Thanksgiving weekend, I will post a thought and a discussion question twice a week from A Christmas Carol.  We will cover one stave per week (for those who are not as familiar, Dickens wrote this piece in five staves rather than chapters) and will conclude the week of Christmas.  If you plan to join the rest of us, drop a comment.  A simple “I’m in.” will  suffice…or even a “bah…humbug.”  Or you can even just like this post.  I will look for you in the comments!